When I said my vows with my husband, I knew from the very beginning that it meant committing my WHOLE self to him. I chose to give him all of my love in whatever circumstance would come our way, individually or together. And the best way to do that is complete vulnerability. Which is attained through honesty and communication. Of course, honesty is an option, but if we don't chose it, your marriage will be anything but successful.
If we fail at honesty, then our marriage is not true! Listen, horrible circumstances are bound come, go, and come again. That's just part of life (married or not). But there will be ones that will try to threaten your marriage because life happens - every day. And while they may be out of our control, choosing to be honest about them is not. After all, how can we expect to work as a team with our husbands if we're not on the same page? How can we make the decisions without having all of the information and options out in the open? We have kids to raise, bills to pay, jobs to do, and challenges to face. And the way to survive it is to count on each other. We have to give our marriage the opportunity to thrive through all of the honesty. Which will help us better team up and face the world TOGETHER.
Never lie. I know, sounds simple, right? But think of how many times we try to downplay something so it doesn't sound so bad? Well that doesn't fly in marriage. The only way to not lie is to share EVERYTHING. Every detail, and in every way - no matter how bad it may be. You want your spouse to feel as though they can ask anything and get an answer of complete truth every single time. It makes you both accountable, trusting, and relieved. And always, always, always love. Authentic honesty requires unrelenting love. We never want to feel as though anything can be used to be thrown back in our faces. Honesty requires humility, not humiliation. Especially in marriage.
Honesty is a way of life in marriage, not a behavior or choice. Keeping it in the forefront keeps the relationship good and true. When you and your spouse can have honesty, there will be so much more comfort and that will help your relationship work in the absolute best way possible.
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