Why is it so normalized for us modern moms to feel guilty over either not having the desire or time to play with our children? Is that really in the forefront of our job description? Is it really in the best interest of our kids? Well to me, not all the time. I don't think that we should be required to find it of uttermost importance to play with our children day in and day out. And guess what? Even if we don't they can still become amazing human beings when they grow up.
My kids often spend a larger chunk of their day doing individual play. Using their imagination every day, their way. They aren't distracted much by electronics, nor craving my attention to provide them with entertainment, But they also know that if they should my help, that I am always available. Therefore, it teaches them how to entertain themselves and each other. Teaching them self-motivation, problem-solving, and allowing them to discover new interests.
And let's be honest, as a mom, were there primarily to provide and protect our kids. To take care of them, make sure they have a roof over their head, clean clothes, food made and in the fridge, a clean environment, and also a loving relationship to look up to within their parents. All simultaneously. Which means sometimes, I just simply don't have the time. And honestly, my kids don't care. They get to see the work ethics of both my husband and myself.
So no, I don't have this burning desire to play with my kids every single day. And that doesn't mean that I never play with my kids. Because I do, almost every day. It just means that sometimes life interferes to where I don't have the time or that I want to foster creativity and individualism. I love my kids and I love playing with them. But I don't always play with them and it's perfectly fine.
Comments